Friend or foe?
There are alot of things that are unexpected in our lives.
Especially when it comes to making friends.
Think about it… there are two types of people in our lives. Friends and enemies.
There are two types of friends.
Friend #1 – The ones that you don’t know that well but you get along with them relatively well (they’re mostly the hi and bye friends)
Friend #2 – The ones that you know very well and love them to death XD
On another hand, there are also two types of enemies.
Enemy #1 – The ones you just don’t like but you don’t know them that well (probably met them once or twice or heard rumors about them but just don’t like them)
Enemy #2 – The ones you know well and you just dislike them so much that you never want to see them again.
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This is how it goes…
You meet A.
From a few or even just one meeting, you categorize them into Friend #1 or Enemy #1 probably based on your impression on them (sometimes, even based on their appearance). Because humans are so blinded by first impressions!!
Friend #1 usually stays as Friend #1. Maybe you don’t contact each other for years until one day, A talks to you again. It may progress to Friend #2 if you get along with A well. Maybe you find common topics and interest. Maybe you’ll be impressed with their work and hobby. Maybe the timing for getting to know them better was right.
Or maybe Friend #1 can progress to Enemy #2. Maybe they’ve gone things that you don’t like. Maybe they offend you and your prorities. Maybe they’re just plain selfish.
Perhaps after you met A, you’ve decided to catagorize them as Enemy #1. Perhaps you just don’t click with them. Maybe they don’t like you either. Maybe you just can’t stand their character. After time, perhaps you get to know them better and still finds them annoying. Then they’ve became Enemy #2.
Or maybe over time, they’ve earned your trust and you start to find more common things amongst each other. Or you have found common goals. Then they’ve became Friend #2. This process is highly complicated but possible too. Ever heard of the term, “know your friends well, but know your enemies better”?
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But what’s the point of me telling you all these?
Well, give you an example. I made a new friend several months back. At first, she was a Friend #1. Gradually after time, she became Enemy #1. Then for some reason, she proceeded to borderline Enemy #1 and Enemy #2. But anyway, there was one day where she said something that offended me. So I decided to voice out my opinions about my dislikes. Surprisingly, she accepted my opinions and also made an apology to me.
She was back to Friend #1. Now she is borderline Friend #1 and Friend #2.
This incident taught me something very important in life.
Friends can definitely become enemies. But enemies can definitely become friends.
However, you can’t predict the future. So, to tell if someone is friend or foe, you’ll have to get to know them better.
Bonding with someone can help you understand them better. Even though, sometimes it brings you disappointment cause the ones which you used to call friends may just become your enemy. But if you never try, you’ll never find out.
Though you may have to climb a few huddles to find out…
It’s better to have 1 good friend in your life than 100 hi-and-bye friends, right?
And who’s to say all your enemies will remain your enemies for life? At least hate someone knowing why you hate them. Don’t blindly hate someone and miss a chance of finding out if they can actually be your best friend.
Best friends are hard to come by!
In another words, never judge a book by its cover. Read the book, and decide if you want to keep it on your bookshelf :]
