I know this may sound like another endless ranting… BUT I’m really stuck!
I’m very angry + sad + disappointed all at once and it is because of this one person…
This is my story… (My side of the story anyway)
I have a group assignment which I have to do in group of 4 (which means I have 3 group members)… just name each A, B and C.
So A and B are couples and both are really hardworking. They put in a lot of effort in our assignment and I’m not worried about their contributions at all.
C is my problem. I’ve known C in high school but we didn’t have such a close friendship. It’s more of a hi and bye thing. I didn’t have much problems with her but coincidently, I’m always partners with her. It’s an odd situation…
Anyway, we knew we had an assignment to complete… so I discussed with all three of them and came to a conclusion that we will meet up during our break last Wednesday to do our assignment. To be very honest, we had a very long 4 hours break. Which means, there is absolutely no excuse that you can’t make it. However, C did not turn up. On that day, we (A, B and me) did accomplish some of the assignment as we know that it will be due soon.
The next day when I saw C, I asked her why she didn’t turn up and she told me that she was sick and hence didn’t come to uni. So I told her what was happening in the group. It turned out that she didn’t even know what question we were doing =.= I was kinda annoyed having to explain to her the work (since we were meant to be researching on our topic before the meet up).
On the same day, I discussed to A and B that we needed to meet up again to finish our assignment. At that time, there was no contributions from C at all. We decided to meet up today. After the decision was made, I went up to C and asked her if she would be free on that day (today) and she said yes. So I told her the time.
I know that I should have discussed with her while discussing with A and B at the same time but the problem is we were in a lab so I couldn’t really talked much. I had a feeling though, that C wasn’t very comfortable being the group since my cultural background with A and B is more similar… I’m not sure though but I thought she wouldn’t mind.
So when I was going to uni today, A msged me and told me that C is not going to come to the meet up. C requested that she would do the next assignment (I think all by herself?). Well, I was really angry cause she told us the last minute and didn’t even say her reason for not coming. I don’t think anyone of us (A, B and me) wanted to leave the next assignment to her cause we could see clearly from her actions that she is not a responsible person.
So again, A, B and me did the rest of the assignment. C did not make any contributions at all.
At the end of our assignment, we are meant to write down how much contributions each students has made and now I’m thinking about what to do with C’s contribution. It is clear that it’s a 0% for her.
Assignment is due tomorrow.
I am not a cruel person and I don’t want to ruin her marks but what can I do? I’m so stuck…
-x-
To C:
I’m truly very very disappointed with you. Time and time again, you have left all the shit for me to do. Everytime when we’re partners, I have done a lot of work. Your contributions have always been last min or had made no effort. To me, the work of yours is nothing. I don’t want to make things ugly between us even though I know that the friendship between us is probably nothing to you. Because we are so different and belong to 2 different world.
But I feel very sorry for myself - that I’m always partnered with you. I really do, you know. I wished you would just take pity on me and make some effort to care about OUR work. If you screw up, we are screwed too.
-x-
End of story.